Comments on: Selective equality http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/ Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:13:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Victor http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35609 Victor Sun, 29 Jan 2006 04:40:05 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35609 yea, i guess it also depends on how guys look at things like this. yea, i guess it also depends on how guys look at things like this.

]]> By: bambit http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35599 bambit Sat, 28 Jan 2006 05:55:45 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35599 pardon the oldwomanish comment but i think the apparent hesitance in asking anyone out is determined not by gender but by confidence. Confidence in one's self, a solid belief in one's convictions that can overcome any labels or stereotype imposed by other people. Sometimes the confidence comes with age, but I know for a fact that age is only one of the factors that can contribute to confidence. pardon the oldwomanish comment but i think the apparent hesitance in asking anyone out is determined not by gender but by confidence. Confidence in one’s self, a solid belief in one’s convictions that can overcome any labels or stereotype imposed by other people. Sometimes the confidence comes with age, but I know for a fact that age is only one of the factors that can contribute to confidence.

]]> By: another random reader http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35561 another random reader Sat, 28 Jan 2006 03:18:51 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35561 girls do ask guys out (i've done so quite a few times and some of them turned out well, some not). besides the reason that i like the guy, i think it's also kinda cool and different and to the point (sa pinas) so i do it. kind of non-sequitur: sa amerika, nyeh, GUYS HERE seem to wait for the girls to ask them out. it's kinda boring for you to come up to a guy you like since...he either is not interested or is just too lazy to make the first move. that's really not cool, especially since it's so commonplace. :| but then again, it appears that the guys who do ask girls out here are really not...good boyfriend material (just my observation, no stats or anything). so yeah. back to p.o.i.: anyways, i tried sharing my 'asking-out' stories to a filipino guy friend of mine and he reacted like the traditional filipino guy he was. yuck daw. ba't ko daw ginawa. para daw akong desperada. *rolls eyes* so i dunno. maybe that's why some girls there hesitate. girls do ask guys out (i’ve done so quite a few times and some of them turned out well, some not). besides the reason that i like the guy, i think it’s also kinda cool and different and to the point (sa pinas) so i do it.

kind of non-sequitur:
sa amerika, nyeh, GUYS HERE seem to wait for the girls to ask them out. it’s kinda boring for you to come up to a guy you like since…he either is not interested or is just too lazy to make the first move. that’s really not cool, especially since it’s so commonplace.

:| but then again, it appears that the guys who do ask girls out here are really not…good boyfriend material (just my observation, no stats or anything). so yeah.

back to p.o.i.:
anyways, i tried sharing my ‘asking-out’ stories to a filipino guy friend of mine and he reacted like the traditional filipino guy he was. yuck daw. ba’t ko daw ginawa. para daw akong desperada. *rolls eyes* so i dunno. maybe that’s why some girls there hesitate.

]]> By: random http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35393 random Fri, 27 Jan 2006 08:32:12 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35393 you have a point. pero come to think of it na rin na minsan.. ginagawa na yun ng mga babae tapos yung lalake naman, ibla-blab na: "aah. yang girl na yan? hinahabol-habol na nga ako niyan eh.." masaklap pa, minsan sasabihin: "ang landi naman niyan.." pero.. you have a point. :) taga UP nga rin pala ako. you have a point. pero come to think of it na rin na minsan.. ginagawa na yun ng mga babae tapos yung lalake naman, ibla-blab na: “aah. yang girl na yan? hinahabol-habol na nga ako niyan eh..” masaklap pa, minsan sasabihin: “ang landi naman niyan..” pero.. you have a point. :) taga UP nga rin pala ako.

]]> By: jerick http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35214 jerick Wed, 25 Jan 2006 11:55:30 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35214 I remember opening that MRT topic in MCO. It's really a strange thing that in Philippine culture, we still tend to be under the semi-colonial "women should be treated better than men" connotation. If ladies ask for equality, then sitting in the MRT even if there are ladies standing, will be alright. That's what people get for equality. I remember opening that MRT topic in MCO. It’s really a strange thing that in Philippine culture, we still tend to be under the semi-colonial “women should be treated better than men” connotation. If ladies ask for equality, then sitting in the MRT even if there are ladies standing, will be alright. That’s what people get for equality.

]]> By: luthien http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35202 luthien Wed, 25 Jan 2006 03:08:48 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35202 kanya-kanya lang yan. minsan masarap ipursue ng lalake (kilig factor), minsan mas maganda na ikaw na babae ang maginitiate...sa sobrang katorpehan ng asawa ko ako na ang nagtanong sa kanya (years ago). labo kasi, di ko na maintindihan saan patungo. minsan kasi kung pakyeme-kyeme pa yung babae walang mangyayari. meron akong alam na yung babae forever nagmamaktol na old maid na raw siya eh siya naman 'tong sobrang pakipot na tipong hindi pa siya kuntento sa liligawan sa bahay nila, gusto pa magpakamatay yung lalake for her, yung tipong romeo and juliet. yung girl na sinasabi ko ayaw mag-effort eh gusto din pala nya. tapos sarap sabunutan magrereklamo old maid na raw siya. kanya-kanya lang yan. minsan masarap ipursue ng lalake (kilig factor), minsan mas maganda na ikaw na babae ang maginitiate…sa sobrang katorpehan ng asawa ko ako na ang nagtanong sa kanya (years ago). labo kasi, di ko na maintindihan saan patungo. minsan kasi kung pakyeme-kyeme pa yung babae walang mangyayari. meron akong alam na yung babae forever nagmamaktol na old maid na raw siya eh siya naman ‘tong sobrang pakipot na tipong hindi pa siya kuntento sa liligawan sa bahay nila, gusto pa magpakamatay yung lalake for her, yung tipong romeo and juliet. yung girl na sinasabi ko ayaw mag-effort eh gusto din pala nya. tapos sarap sabunutan magrereklamo old maid na raw siya.

]]> By: Victor http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35150 Victor Tue, 24 Jan 2006 23:15:04 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35150 hindi ko naman sinasabing magsimula nang manligaw ang mga babae ngayon. it's just that, i think girls shouldnt feel helpless when it comes to love. na, if they really believe in women empowerment and equality of the sexes, then at least they shouldn't be scared of taking traditionally masculine risks of courting. saka, bakit walang konsepto ng pagiging torpe ang babae? dahil ba it is normal and expected of them naman? na lalaki lang ang may konsepto ng pagiging torpe kasi its something we, as guys, aren't supposed to be? just some thoughts. its not as if i myself can totally avoid these societal constructs. hindi ko naman sinasabing magsimula nang manligaw ang mga babae ngayon. it’s just that, i think girls shouldnt feel helpless when it comes to love. na, if they really believe in women empowerment and equality of the sexes, then at least they shouldn’t be scared of taking traditionally masculine risks of courting.

saka, bakit walang konsepto ng pagiging torpe ang babae? dahil ba it is normal and expected of them naman? na lalaki lang ang may konsepto ng pagiging torpe kasi its something we, as guys, aren’t supposed to be?

just some thoughts. its not as if i myself can totally avoid these societal constructs.

]]> By: Celeni http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35140 Celeni Tue, 24 Jan 2006 22:40:34 +0000 http://www.bikoy.net/archives/2006/01/25/selective-equality/#comment-35140 Just put it this way, being socialized to traditional gender roles have a great effect on behaviour. But really, it's just a façade. Boys and girls alike have their own reasons for being "torpe". From the classicly mediocre "I'm afraid to be rejected" to the understandable "I don't want to be in a complicated relationship yet". You really can't be sexist about it and expect the entire female population to "get over" these reasons just because only 30% of the UP student population is male. Just put it this way, being socialized to traditional gender roles have a great effect on behaviour. But really, it’s just a façade. Boys and girls alike have their own reasons for being “torpe”.

From the classicly mediocre “I’m afraid to be rejected” to the understandable “I don’t want to be in a complicated relationship yet”. You really can’t be sexist about it and expect the entire female population to “get over” these reasons just because only 30% of the UP student population is male.

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