Learn how to say no
Sure, it’s flattering that people still come to me for all sorts of favors and rely on me for various things. I do appreciate the trust and the thought that they count on me. But it can take it’s toll sometimes. I don’t like to appear like I’m complaining, but see, this saying yes to people almost all the time, does make me break promises one after another. I just can’t say no and keep a straight face to people. The more I can’t face them and say I’ve failed in my attempt to do so much things at the same time.
Patawad sa lahat ng pagkukulang ko bilang kaibigan, bilang officer sa org, bilang member sa isa pang org, bilang officer sa political party, bilang junior sa frat, bilang anak, bilang kung anupaman ang turing ng ibang tao sa akin. Ang dami ko nang roles na sinusubukang gampanan. Hay, nagpatung-patong na lahat. Sa pagsubok kong tuparin lahat ng pangako ko, minsan talaga nabibitawan ko ang iba. Ni hindi ko na matugunan mga pangako ko sa sarili ko. I’m sorry. But I can do this.
ano ito? last willing testament na ba? huhu bikoy… wag mo kami iiwan…. huhuhu
Pero hindi ka naman nagiisa. Kung may pagkukulang ngayon, pwedeng bumawi bukas, o sa makalawa.
kakayanin naman. salamat!
Sumaglit kami sa bloggers’ foodfest sa Taste Asia sa SM Mall of Asia kagabi. Pinag-uusapan ka ng mga blogger sa kabilang table. Hehe. :p
oh, talaga? hehe. pakiramdam ko nga feeling ng ibang bloggers snob ako. bihira akong dumalo sa mga bloggers events eh. isa ‘yon sa mga kailangan kong i-miss para gampanan ang iba’t iba kong tungkulin. hehe.
chillax. pause for a while and release some pressure in your system. mukha namng kaya mo yan! apir! kumuha ng lakas sa mga friends! =)
salamat sa comment
Hey, kamusta na? (Para naman di kita nakita sa vinzons nitong nakaraang linggo lang) Napadaan lang sa blog ng mga tao, at nabasa ang pinakabago mong isinulat. Alam ko namang kaya mo yan. Nakita ko kung paano ka gumawa sa konseho at sa political party natin. Mahirap talagang ibalanse ang mga gawain, at tama ka dapat matuto tayong magsabi ng hindi kung hindi talaga natin kaya. Magiging sagka din naman sa’yo at sa mga org mo kung matatambakan ka ng trabaho at hindi na makakapagpaunlad ng sarili at gawain, di ba?
Ang masasabi ko lang: para mawala ang pagod mo, kasama, lagi mo lang iisipin kung para saan at para kanino ba ang ginagawa mo. Hanggang taglay mo ang tamang linya at paninindigan, hindi ka maliligaw.
melai! kita-kits sa biyernes kung dadalo ka
Neon, kamusta naman, it’s Last Will and Testament. DUH.
Anyway Victor, you’ll have to take the responsibilities in role-filling. You shouldn’t apologise for your misgivings, you should make up for them. It’s your “fault” you got involved in so many things. As they say a lot in film, “show, don’t tell”.
Yun lang. Don’t worry, I’m sympathetic. I do say no to unreasonable favours (not within my sphere of responsibility). Sorry na lang kung nabiktima ka.
celeni, i was thinking the EXACT same thing, concerning the last will and testament. champion.
I actually agree with you. I believe in the statement that “less is more and more is less”
pagbigyan mo na si neon. di ko na nga pinuna yung mali. i value my avid commenters
hehe
Hahahahaha. *cough* I don’t feel like I’m being valued.
Hello! I am Seph, a regular reader of your blog. I was silent the whole time but I just can’t pass on this one.
You know what? I also experienced that feeling: being stretched, overused, and abused. I realized that the root cause of it all is that I want to do all my dreams at the same time. Naging gahaman ako para sa sarili ko. Naging gahaman para kunin lahat ang gusto ko sa isang iglap lamang. Well, it was too late when I realized that in order for us to achieve all our dreams, we must start with a few and maintain the few until such time that we can proceed to the next level and do the next things that we dream of.
I hope I did help… More power, Bikoy!
thank you seph
yakaaap!
I never thought I would ever see the day when Bikoy will jump on the emo bandwagon. Hehe. :p
napadaan lang. i have a friend na orgmate mo, oh well, share ko rin sayo book ko on how to say no without feeling guilty. try ko padala sa kanya. bye.
wag mo kasing masyadong pinapagod sarili mo pare, iisa lang katawan mo, andami mo pang sinalihan na mga org. na yan, tsk. tsk. cge pahinga ka muna.
Parang ngang ang busy mo ay…
take your time pare:) everything is under control:)
My father said it’s that Filipino trait of trying to be hospitable… of trying to avoid “hiya” (shame) that is both a great strength and weakness of Filipinos.
I work in IT sofware world… My friends always joke around that “white” people tend to hire lots of Asians (Chinese programmers in particular) in lower positions because they think that the Asians are super hardworking and the Asians won’t say “no” to all kinds of shit and workplace abuse (like excess overtime requests). Based on what I’ve seen (I’ve done a lot of freelance work so I’ve been in a lot of companies)… that stereotype could be true.
bikoy, its how you say “no”
[…] I have mixed feelings with the string of suspension of classes the past days. I wouldn’t mind taking a break from school routines, which I’ve realized, because of all the affiliations I get myself into, consist more of extra-academic duties. On that note, let me just share that there really comes times when I feel like I’m not in UP to study anymore but to perform my roles and duties in my orgs, in my frat and in my political party. Attending classes and fulfilling academic requirements become a side line. If my day in school is a pie chart, attending classes and studying does not even eat close to half. I just try to console myself that as long as I keep my cum laude-standing average till March, I’m okay. Again, this goes back to what I said about myself being unable to say no. […]
di ka nag iisa…ako nga eh…we are of the same level, third year na din ako taking up bs biology at with concentrations pa at general biology preparing for a medical life after i graduate.that is with two out of town travels every week in every major subject simply to do samplings on forests and jungles and lakes and whatever ecosystems you might think(i have four major subjects at that) which drains a quarter of my entire life energy …on the other hand, writer ako ng aming school publication which also drains a quater of my entire life energy dahil sa daming dapat isulat na hindi ko naman masulat sulat.at kung isusulat mo naman eh irerevise mo dahil sa mga hindi gusto ni editor in chief at may kasama pang galit dahil sa late ako nag pass dahil may ginawa pa akong iba…sa kabilang dako, president pa ako ng aming institute debate committee that requires me half of my entire life energy.dahil sa debate, i scheduled all my classes only upto 7 30 p.m. a day because after that may debate coaching and practice pa kami and that’s every single day,every single night(sunday is not rest day which makes me more than a regular employee in any government agency).at dahil nga ako ang president,im doing more than what a regular member does(kahit ang regular member eh nakakamatay na ang role).i am organizing a mindanao wide debate which is at the same time an invitational debate for visayas universities.i have to organize an event that will cover all universities and schools in mindanao and visayas and that’s not a joke.and it’s a four day affair with a ride-in congress for the debate union of mindanao universities.ouch,even though i have committees within my authority but i have to attend to all the things from food to accomodations to sponshorships to uniforms to the congress legislations of the union and even to the kits that will be used because im a very hands-on person to all things…and hey, did i mention that i am also working on the adjudicators from different parts of the country to join and judge the debate.that is to say a separate load for their accomdations and all the enumerations i need not to repeat.included into being a president is also organizing debate competitions for the institute and a city wide debate because we are considered to be the prime organization in the city………and not the very least of them all,i’m a board member of the executive council of my university.and let me not enumerate all the activities and programs and fund raising and symposiums and seminars and sportfests and sponsorships that i need to organize simply to cater and give for the sake of the student’s welfare…………………………………..and this is not all i can say about the things that i’ve been doing in my life because these are only the activities inside the campus premise and not including my community and family and friends and conctituents’ responsibilities…………..sorry but i need to write all this simply to ease the burden in my heart.at least someone can read this coz im on my verge of crying(dont worry, it doesnt make me less of a man)…and the heck is im only 19 years old doing all this stuff.im supposed to be enjoying the malls and nurturing my love life(which is i really don’t have coz i dont even know if that love life ever existed.probably my responsibilities are my love…ouch)…where are all the old men,stand up and help me…only if you can…huhuhu…=)